Some therapists believe that all individuals suffering from any form of dissatisfaction with life which might encourage them to seek counseling have a spiritual disconnect. They don’t believe they deserve the good that eludes them, they don’t believe they are good enough, they are filled with guilt.
When I speak of spirituality I am not talking religion, though that is the way many people express their spirituality. We are made of mind, body and spirit. We give plenty of attention to the mind and body but often too little attention to the spirit, that which goes beyond the physical body. Some people call it the soul.
“Spirit” encompasses that which we believe about our purpose in life, where we came from, where we go when we die, and how the Universe is organized. People who believe that “everything is in perfect Devine order” tend to find solutions and growth even in frustrations that challenge them severely. This is a goal of any spiritual belief system—to find comfort and solace. “God” may be a word you will use to speak about your beliefs or it may not, as that word may bring to mind judgment and you hardly need that when you are unhappy with yourself. Other words you might use are Higher Power, Source, Devine Energy, or you can make up your own.
I encourage all people seeking counseling to invest some time in thinking about what they believe. It is always useful to gather with like minded people, if you can find them. That is the purpose of church. If you live in an area that has a rich variety of worship groups, I encourage you to experiment by attending many different meetings. Also look for study groups that have a spiritual focus, even though they may not be connected with a church. Reading and study of various religions might be helpful.
I myself start each session with the following affirmation taken from The Course in Miracles:
I am here only to be truly helpful,
I am here to represent Him who sent me.
I do not have to worry about what to say, or what to do, because He Who sent me will direct me.
I am content to be wherever He wishes.
Knowing He goes there with me.
I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.
You will see links to several books that others have found helpful in their spiritual search. Talking with your friends and family about what they believe is helpful as well. Meditating is also helpful.
“Getting in the Gap” by Wayne Dyer”.
Here are some helpful books and DVD’s:
The Power of Intention
Conversations with God, Book 1
The Road Less Traveled
The Secret Book
What if a Day